Betwixt and between
An exploration of adoption reunion realities following New Zealand non-Maori adoptions, from a psychodynamic perspective
Abstract
The aim of this paper is to help therapists to increase their understanding of the powerful psychological underpinnings of adoption reunions. It outlines significant psychological and interactional issues for people searching and engaged in reunion as they attempt to weave new relationships with one another against the background of their genetic, adoptive and relinquishment histories. Altering expectations and relinquishing long-held fantasies can be a very difficult task for all members of the adoption triangle. The paper argues that a lack of psychological understanding of adoption realities, combined with superficial therapeutic practice in supporting those involved in reunions, have been significant factors in many unsatisfactory reunion outcomes in New Zealand.